Can you help give me a clue on how to be more successful with the ladies?
And, well, I don’t have romantic fantasies about girls when I do daydream. But if I’m twenty-five and a guy’s never inspired stomach butterflies, then…what?
The women who have great self-esteem and who are looking for a meaningful relationship aren’t looking for a Peacock.
In fact, one of the most common pet peeves women have about dating is that the guy spends the whole time “bragging” about himself instead of engaging her.
The problem is, I don’t have any feeling that says, “I want to be near this person a lot.” Granted, he hasn’t blatantly come out and asked me out yet (and if he doesn’t, I’m not going to say anything), but I definitely don’t want to lead him on or make him feel like he’s always the guy who gets “friend-zoned” or something when chances are the problem’s with me, and my lack of hormones, and not with him. And only if you’d be doing it for yourself and not because your friends think it’s time.
The thing is, I honestly think I’m one of those women out there with a fairly low libido, or maybe I’m demisexual or something, I don’t know. It’s quite possible that, as you get to know people in date-like settings, something will click and there be a “switch,” as you say, where your hormones start sending messages to your brain that there’s a possible connection.
Do you know of other women who only started noticing guys in their late twenties or early thirties? It’s ok if you’re still figuring out who, exactly, you are, and what you like and what turns you on.