A 6-year-old wondering what "birth control" means is not necessarily asking you to delineate the mechanics of intercourse. Try to respond to your child's initial question without turning red or acting as though some momentous exchange is taking place; such a response might unnerve her or suggest that sex is linked to feelings of shame.
If you can remain calm and speak naturally early on, you send an important message to your child: "You don't need to feel nervous about asking me about this.
You might want to start this conversation off (or simply let her know that you're willing to have it whenever she wants) with a casual question or remark: "Do you know if any of the older girls at school have started their periods yet?
" Or: "You know, when I was your age, I didn't understand about periods and I felt too embarrassed to ask anybody." Another useful approach for a child who's reached the age of 10 or so is to give her a good, readable kids' book on puberty and sexual development.
books -- one for girls and one for boys -- by Lynda Madaras.
Another invaluable guide for girls is The Period Book (Everything You Don't Want to Ask But Need to Know) written by Karen Gravelle in consultation with her 15-year-old niece, Jennifer.
Not everyone likes having a sexually charged text or photo pop up on her phone as much as she thought she would.
One excellent series is the What's Happening to My Body?
But the reality is that more and more of the 50-plus set, both single and married, routinely use text messaging to send tantalizing pictures and provocative words to their partner, according to relationship experts. Some of her favorites are, "Love you most," or "I still want to go to the prom with you! When you're comfortable, try texting something slightly suggestive, James says.
"Can't wait until tonight" would work even for shy novices. She recommends turning things up a notch with something along the lines of, "Forget chocolate, I am craving the taste of you! If you're dating, keep expectations based on sexting in check, says psychotherapist and advice columnist Dr. Just because you're getting hot and heavy texts, that doesn't necessarily mean you'll get hot and heavy in person. If you're sending or receiving racy notes or photos, delete them after they're sent, advises relationship coach Suzanne Blake.
Rather, they are using it as a fun, easy and usually harmless way to spice up their sex.
Relationship coach Suzanne Blake has seen and heard it all when it comes to sexting, including a wife who enjoys sexting her husband while he's traveling on business, telling (and showing) him what he's missing at home.
Before buying, look it over yourself to make sure you like its approach.