In a recent interview, actor Harrison Ford said that he tries to treat his fan interactions as interactions with customers.
When framed this way, it certainly outlines the potential conflict of interest in romance between fans and their idols nicely.
So-called “fandoms” devour everything about their favorite bands and artists, whether they’re playing an opening slot on the Warped Tour or are headlining arenas.
I spent countless hours poring over music videos, Myspace updates (yes, I’m old) and tour announcements endlessly, scouring every relevant magazine I could get my hands on with religious fervor, all to make sure I never missed a show.
There is no technical reason why a fan and their idol could not genuinely fall in love.
There is no right or wrong way to meet legal, consenting romantic partners, and it is reasonable to think that two people could be drawn to each other despite the pre-existing condition of one of those people being a fan, who was previously hyper-aware of the other’s existence.
Someone has to take responsibility for making sure both parties in the relationship ought to be in that relationship in the first place, and it stands to reason that it would often be safer, smarter and even kinder on the part of most musicians in these encounters to simply walk away.
The idol will always hold the power in the idol-fan encounters, which is why it is ideally up to them to decide if pursuing each relationship is a good idea or not. The relationship has to be between two people who are completely capable of consent.
That’s not a question that can be universally answered.