Myth: If I don’t feel an instant attraction to someone, it’s not a relationship worth pursuing.Fact: This is an important myth to dispel, especially if you have a history of making inappropriate choices.Remember that first impressions aren't always reliable, especially when it comes to Internet dating.It always takes time to really get to know a person and you have to experience being with someone in a variety of situations.For example, how well does this person hold up under pressure when things don't go well or when they're tired, frustrated, or hungry? Everyone has flaws, and for a relationship to last, you want someone to love you for the person you are, not the person you’d like to be, or the person they think you should be.Besides, what you consider a flaw may actually be something another person finds quirky and appealing.
Perhaps you grew up in a household where there was no role model of a solid, healthy relationship and you doubt that such a thing even exists.Myth: I didn’t feel close to my parents, so intimacy is always going to be uncomfortable for me.Fact: It’s never too late to change any pattern of behavior.Retaining many of these unrealistic expectations can make any potential partner seem inadequate and any new relationship feel disappointing. Even if certain traits seem crucially important at first, over time you'll often find that you've been needlessly limiting your choices.For example, it may be more important to find someone who is: Needs are different than wants in that needs are those things that matter to you most, such as values, ambitions, or goals in life.But both men and women experience the same core emotions such as sadness, anger, fear, and joy. Fact: Love is rarely static, but that doesn’t mean love or physical attraction is doomed to fade over time.