I’m 30 years old, and I haven’t had a whole lot of romantic experience.I’ve been shy my whole life and dealing with anxiety and depression since my teen years, so I haven’t put myself out there as much as I could have, and haven’t had the self-confidence to be a good prospect in the past.Before I saw her again, I e-mailed her to ask to talk again—I had been flogging myself for not knowing what to say.Her response was a clear “no”, and it was obvious that my e-mail had been unwelcome.She said “I don’t know” and it looked like she was nervous and didn’t know what to do.I backed off physically, but I pressed the point: mostly questions in the “why not? We parted without incident, but met back up at the end of the party (the group was riding back together).
This hurricane was the deadliest weather disaster in United States history.This is actually pretty simple to handle going forward. Some actual big deal life stuff came up and I forgot to call him.At precisely am Monday morning I got a text that said “” and then he kept texting me all week until I blocked his number I get from the interactions that he’d been really looking forward to the date and that I hurt his feelings by being less interested. Pushy people get my back up and if you’re a shy guy who is not very experienced at dating your best dating pool is going to be your fellow shy people who are not so experienced at dating and they are not necessarily going to enjoy feeling hunted by you.It was probably never gonna happen after that initial 😦 but it was definitely not gonna happen after “” He was cute and smart and we liked the same geeky stuff but he put my shoulders up around my ears and once they went up they weren’t coming down. Additionally: You can’t logick someone into loving you.There is no series of perfectly executed steps that get you there.You’re not doing anything wrong by asking people on dates, asking them to kiss them, or telling them you like them. You don’t need to push for a clearer answer or settle the question or codify the rejection. If she flirts with you, it’s okay to flirt back, but don’t renew the request for a date or a kiss. Just because you were comfortable with it once upon a time doesn’t mean you have to be comfortable with it when your feelings are hurt. A woman who genuinely wants to look at your etchings will find a way to ask you about them. If someone says no to Thursday, specifically, but yes to the idea, you are cleared to ask again, one time.