The cool thing with modern dating for seniors is that many sites are specifically designed for the seniors.Many years ago your mom or dad probably had “the talk” with you. By asking questions and listening more than talking, she shows her date she is interested in him.“Lay off and let adults be adults, trust me, even at age 80, they can handle their business without the interference of a nosy daughter or son,” wrote another Huff Post reader who commented on my blog. The advice you’ve given me is: Be really careful when writing about older people and sex — it’s a touchy subject, to say the least ()!I agree that one should never speak to someone with more life experience without recognizing and appreciating their wisdom.As a passionate advocate in the field of gerontology, this has always been my mantra.But our culture and the subject of dating and sexuality, in general, has definitely changed over the last decade due to advances in technology (online dating, for instance) and the vast increases in longevity, widowhood and divorce.
By no means did I intend to be patronizing by offering these important tips.
The goal was to make sure that mature adults who are re-entering the dating scene — especially if it’s been a long time — understand that the so-called “scene” has dramatically changed over the last decade.
In the case of The Sex Talk, clearly, “approach and tone” are everything.
When you were dating, your parents likely had you carry change for a pay phone — just in case. Mom wouldn’t have let you out the door wearing a micro-mini skirt or a skimpy bikini.
And an even larger percentage experience at least occasional trouble with achieving or maintaining an erection.
There are all theses “taboo” or “white elephant in the room” subjects when it comes to talking with our mature parents — enough already — let’s open up the lines of communication. I also want to make sure we don’t forget a central point in this dialogue. In many cases those 50, 60, 70, 80, 90 years old and beyond now have a second chance that many of their parents did not have — they can reinvent themselves as a single person (and for you readers who said I looked “too young” to address this subject, I’m 45, but I greatly appreciate your comments! Another Huff Post reader commented: “This advice is as good for young as old now days.