Or spice up my Facebook page with some photos of myself in a swimsuit?After all, I’m not getting any younger, and I don’t want to wait forever!is an under-graduate, studying theology and law at the University of Auckland.He lives in New Zealand, loves to surf, and hopes to challenge youth to be everything God created them to be.It’s a problem that will require all of our courage, confidence and creativity to solve.It’s a problem that affects many of our brothers in Christ—it might even be affecting you.A plethora of books, blogs, advice columns, and magazine articles have surfaced in the last few years, attempting to give Christian young women some helpful tips for snagging a godly guy and achieving that much-desired state of wedded bliss.“Call him up and invite him out to coffee! “Just because you are the woman doesn’t mean you can’t give the guy a nudge in the right direction. “When it comes to finding a husband, if you snooze, you lose!Let him know you are interested – otherwise he may overlook you and move on to a different girl! Online dating gives you far more guys to choose from so you can ‘shop’ for the partner you’ve always dreamed of!
But what I’m getting at is that periods of singlehood should be defined by purpose, not by indecision.Or she doesn’t, and that’s rough, but at least now there is clarity in the relationship.Too often, I think this area of our lives is defined by indecision.We don’t want to make the wrong decision, so we discern and overanalyze every possibility, to the point where we never actually take action.This isn’t to say that God doesn’t call people to periods of singlehood.My concern is that we’re setting the wrong standards. Or maybe we aren’t concerned about whether a lady loves Gandalf as much as we do, but we do expect her to already be a saint.